|Photo taken about 2.5 hours after Jasmine was born.|
But I've heard all the arguments. Let me spell them out for you. He didn't get married so he can sleep alone. He feels it's his right to sleep beside his mate. He says he is building a life-long relationship with ME, not with the baby who will grow up and move out. He won't have sex with the baby beside us. He doesn't believe he should have to be kicked out of his own room.
Yeah. OK. Well, it's not about him. Does he have to get up and go to work in the morning? YES? Then he is entitled to a good sleep. And he'll get a great sleep alone in his own bed. He'll even get up in the morning without disturbing anyone. It's a great deal for everyone. (And perhaps you noticed that I had baby last year but I haven't slept with my partner in almost 4 years? It really does work out! Really!)
So that's my 2nd secret? What do you think?
**I've used the pronoun 'he' because although I worked with many mothers who had female partners, the cosleeping issue was only presented to me by mothers with male partners.
P.S. Yes, I know that cosleeping is not for every mother. No, I don't think you're a bad mother if you don't cosleep.